It’s a horribly tough process accepting that a loved one, be it family or close friend, needs to go into hospice. It’s such an emotionally trying time that many people don’t know what to say or do, and even go as far as avoiding the person entering care out of fear of what to say or do (like doing the wrong thing or making them feel worse). Here are some ways to make the process a little easier on you and your loved one entering into a hospice care.
Decide which hospice is right for the patient
Some conditions absolutely require a hospice facility, while others can be managed at home. Multiple factors go into this decision, such as what the illness is or if you have the space and time to take care of your loved one around the clock. Trust your instincts on what is best for the person and don’t let emotions or guilt override what’s best for the situation. You can keep good communication with caregivers about treatments, major medical decisions (if you are authorized to do so), and even which facility they will enter into. If you are making decisions on the person’s behalf, it is your responsibility to ensure they get the best care possible and their wants and wishes are respected to the best of your ability.
Take your cues from the patient
If you’re able to visit with Covid happening, let the patient lead the conversation. Don’t be afraid of what to say or not to say. Some may be blunt about what is going on and want to talk about it openly. Try talking about good memories and listening to what they have to say. If they avoid the topic and want to talk about the weather or what’s going on in the outside world, do that too. Everyone handles the experience differently. Some people accept death and have no fear of talking about it, while others may look for a distraction from feeling so horrible. Don’t take offense if he or she isn’t very responsive or faces away from you, they could be in a lot of pain. Don’t stand awkwardly, take your coat off and make yourself comfortable. If Covid is preventing a face-to-face visit, try facetiming and sending a letter or even a text letting them know you’re thinking of them.
Let the hospice company handle all the billing
One good thing about hospice facilities is the fact that they take payment and billing stress off your hands. Most facilities outsource to a hospice billing company that handles insurance (often Medicare) claims, making the process streamlined and one less thing to focus on during this difficult time.
Take care of yourself
A lot of caregivers end up neglecting themselves while caring for loved ones. Make sure you are taking time for yourself to care for yourself and do some things to keep your mental wellbeing healthy. Take some walks, vent to a friend, do some yoga, make sure you’re getting proper meals and rest, and even though it’s easier said than done, try to keep a positive outlook.
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