Sometimes it’s painstakingly obvious that a relationship is over, other times knowing when to call it quits can be a struggle. From time to time, most couples go through rough patches and periods that are tough, which can often lead to us wondering whether our marriage is doomed to fail or whether it’s just a rough patch. The fact is that there’s not always a way to decipher whether you’re currently going through a rough patch and things will get better or if it’s time to cut your losses, call it quits, and ask for a divorce.
The fact is that asking for a divorce or breaking up with a long-term partner isn’t a decision to take lightly, especially when there are kids involved. If you are asking yourself whether it’s time to call it quits and go your separate ways, what you need to ask yourself first is, have we tried to make it work? Because if you haven’t tried to make things work and get out of the rough patch that you’ve found yourself in, then choosing to break up for good could be a mistake. We say ‘could be’ because only you know your relationship and its potential for success.
That being said, below are a list of tips that you can use to help to determine whether it is just a rough patch or whether it’s time to hire a divorce lawyer from IRB Law. Some relationships can be fixed; others can’t, it’s just a case of determining which of these your relationship is.
Do you still love each other?
The first question to ask yourself is whether you and your partner still love each other. If the answer is yes but there are communication problems, a lack of respect, or you irritate each other, then it could be worth taking some time to try and work things out. Perhaps seeing a marriage counselor would help? If the answer is no, you don’t think that you and your partner love each other anymore, then making things work will be more tricky. Yes, there is the possibility of falling in love with each other again, but when you’ve fallen out of love, it can be almost impossible to get the feelings that you used to have back.
Do you want to make it work?
Maybe you both want to make things work, but something always gets in the way and causes problems. If you both are keen to stay together and work things out, then it is possible to make changes and navigate your way to a happier and healthier relationship. However, if one or both of you isn’t keen to make things work and wants a fresh start, then there’s no point trying to fix things because for your relationship to heal you both need to want it to and be willing to work at it.
Talk things through
With any relationship, one of the most important things is to talk things through. Whether you want to try to make a go of your relationship or feel as if it is time to end things, you need to talk things through with your partner. You need to talk to each other, share your feelings, and explain why you think staying together or breaking up is the right thing to do. If you are planning to break up with them and want to end things on good terms for the sake of the kids, then it’s even more important to talk how you are feeling through. Talking openly and honestly can allow you to work out what it is that both you and your partner want, it might be painful and upsetting, but talking can give you the understanding and closure that you need.
Determining whether it’s a rough patch or is time to end things isn’t easy. Hopefully, however, the tips and advice above will help you to work out the next steps to take and what to do for the best.