Everyone goes through tough times during a relationship at some point – it is absolutely normal. It is up to both of you to decide if the problem is worth fixing, or if maybe it is just time to move on.
Why Are You Together?
Ask yourself why you are in a relationship with this person. Many people will say it is because they want a partner, or to start a family, and any other emotional factors. When you can see why you wanted to be with the person, you can put things into perspective and make it easier to get through a rough patch, because you know why you are doing it.
Pros And Cons.
See which list is longer, and you will be able to think a lot clearer. The pros will normally outweigh the cons, making it clear why you are with your partner. But if for whatever reason, the cons list is longer or more significant than the pros list, then it may be time to consider breaking up..
Change Is Okay.
Whether you are going through your first fight or the hundredth, you can’t deny the fact that something may have to change for the relationship to get better. (Change isn’t a bad thing!) Yes, people say you should never change who you are, but what is wrong with adjusting your attitude to be more tolerant, patient, kind and loving? It’s a change for the better!
Don’t Be Embarrassed To Ask For Help.
If you and your partner have hit rock bottom and have no idea what to do next to save your relationship, there is no shame in reaching out for help. Speak to a marriage therapist, couples counselor or a close (unbiased) friend. Getting an opinion from someone outside of the relationship can do wonders. Sometimes, all you need to get through a difficult time is someone else’s advice on what to do next.
Getting through a hard time in your relationship is not going to be easy if you’re always negative. How you deal with the situation now will affect the situation’s outcome. If you can’t see the positivity in the circumstances that you’re in, things will never improve.
Accepting That It’s Over.
No one wants to have a divorce or a breakup, you made a promise to one another, and now you’re bound to feel like a failure. But you’re not. As long as you know that you both done all you could to try and save the relationship, you shouldn’t feel bad. If you’re not sure what to do, get some divorce law advice. They’ll be able to tell you what to prepare for.
Maybe it didn’t work out how you wanted it to. But there was a reason you were together in the first place. Don’t let how it ended, ruin all your happy memories. You gave each other joy for a moment in time, and you are both so lucky to have found that.