Absolutely no relationship out there is ‘perfect.’ The problem is, we’re raised with unrealistic expectations. Men are told women should be there to wait on them hand and foot, and women are told that men should treat them like a Disney princess. Completely unrealistic, and these standards aren’t for everybody anyway. Navigating a relationship in this day and age is pretty difficult anyway. After all, we now have so many more distractions and things that can cause an issue – social media, for one!
However, if you are experiencing problems, you can’t really put it all down to The Little Mermaid and Facebook. Below, we’ll talk about the signs your relationship could use some help and what you can do:
One Or Both Of You Don’t Have Interests Outside Of The Relationship
If neither of you has interests outside of the relationship, and you’re pretty much living in each other’s pockets, this could be a sign of a codependent relationship. It might just be a sign that you both need to learn who you are again and do things you enjoy – this way, you’ll bring so much more to the table and live more fulfilling lives, without putting pressure on the other person to always entertain you/make you happy. Doing everything together isn’t always the best or most romantic thing. In fact, when this starts to go awry, many married couples end up getting a divorce. It’s important to keep in mind who you are. Don’t lose yourself in a relationship. If you feel like this is something your partner is doing, all you can do is talk with them. Don’t make passive aggressive remarks, or you’ll make things worse.
You Feel Like You’re The Only One Putting In Effort
If you’re the only one doing chores around the house, it could be a sign your partner is unwilling to mature. However, if you feel like you’re the only one putting effort into the relationship, it could be that you need your partner to start sharing the heavy lifting with you. Acting as a team will make you far stronger in the long run. Don’t let them be complacent for too long, or this will breed resentment. They may not realize that they haven’t been pulling their weight, so it could be time for a serious talk.
Your Life Goals Don’t Align
If you want kids but your partner doesn’t, or your partner wants to get married and you don’t, these are pretty big issues. You can’t stick around expecting your partner to change their mind – and unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do other than call it off.
Remember, that whatever you need to talk to your partner about, the way you communicate is imperative to success. You can’t point fingers of blame, tell them off, and expect them to comply. You need to be willing to calmly communicate how you’ve been feeling, what you’d like to change, and other relevant information. Be prepared to listen to their side of things properly, too. That’s how you communicate in a healthy way. If you can’t seen to have a conversation like this without arguing, then it could be a sign you need couples therapy, or to part ways.
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